I am a Social Justice Witch who goes by xe and xir pronouns, a technopagan devoted to Hermes and Hestia, and a fat black dfab femme. I am everything Tea Partiers fear, and one day, I will be president of the United States. Look forward to my reign of terror.
This is a multi-fandom blog that ain't got time for racism, sexism, ableism or shaming people for their body, religion, who they have sex with, or how much they have sex, and if you think reverse racism, heterophobia, allyphobia, or MRAs are things I should care about, you want to fuck RIGHT the hell off, because you have stumbled upon the WRONG blog, friend.
That said, if I post anything problematic or triggering, I need you to let me know, so I can tag it, or otherwise check myself, because I'm a work in progress, just like you. Feel free to chat me up on the reblog, send me some asks, whatever you like. I don't bite. Much.
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Something about hormonal birth control just unnerves me... I mean, it can't be natural to put extra hormones in your body, right? It just doesn't seem right to me to have something controlling your body in that way... But is there really anything unsafe about hormonal birth control? Am I just overthinking it?
Every time you introduce a medication, an herb, a procedure, a food into your body, you need to consider how it will affect your body and control it.
Coffee? Coffee has the active ingredient caffeine in it, which is a central nervous system stimulant. Among other things, it increases respiratory rate, reduces heartrate, and constricts blood vessels. ”Caffeine increases fat utilization and decreases glycogen utilization. Caffeine mobilizes free fatty acids from fat and/or intramuscular triglycerides by increasing circulating epinephrine levels. The increased availability of free fatty acids increases fat oxidation and spares muscle glycogen, thereby enhancing endurance performance. In the nervous system, caffeine may reduce the perception of effort by lowering the neuron activation threshold, making it easier to recruit the muscles for exercise.” [x]
Think about alcohol, coffee, milk, any tea you drink either herbal or caffeinated, animal meat, etc. These things all have medicinal properties and affect they way that your body acts. Oatmeal even has medicinal properties. So what is “natural”?
If you ask me what ”natural” is, I’ll tell you that "natural" is either being pregnant or breastfeeding from age 14 until 35 and then dying of an infection because "natural" means not taking antibiotics. To me, "natural" means not using plastic water bottles, microwaves, cars. "Natural" means not wearing shoes or using glasses or taking vitamins.
I could go on, but I think you get the point. Medicinal hormones in your body to prevent pregnancy is one decision that we make for the sake of our totally, wholly unnatural lifestyles, and it is the right decision for most people. There are side effects to hormonal birth control, but when considering that, we must also consider the side effects of pregnancy. Hormonal birth control causes an increase in likelihood of blood clots, yes, but only at 0.03%, while pregnancy increases that likelihood to 4.3%. Up to 50% of people on high dose combined hormonal contraceptives (about 34% of the total birth control population) will experience some nausea, but 90% of pregnant people will experience some nausea. It’s the same for all the side effects - the birth control tells your body it’s pregnant, so it acts that way. You have the same side effects for both, but with birth control it is to a much lesser degree.
If you’d rather not introduce medications into your body at all, I understand that. You can try Natural Family Planning, which includes carefully counting your cycle, taking your temperature every morning, watching your cervical mucus for changes and taking about 1.5 weeks off during the middle of each month where you either don’t have sex or use condoms. Learn how to do that here.
But again, think it over. Think about all the things you eat/drink/use every day that aren’t natural - anything with chemicals, anything that is made specifically to make your life easier or better. Consider condoms and lubricant and vibrators - are those natural? Either way there are methods for you, and I don’t mean to bully you into using hormonal birth control, I merely hope that you’ll investigate what your aversion to it comes from.
i need to stop seeing this shit come up on my dashboard. stop mimicking “black men” when you invoke predatory sexuality. recognize it and stop doing it. recognize the part youre playing in perpetuating the deadly myth of the black male rapist.
and read this: "Rape, Racism and the Myth of the Black Rapist" from Angela Davis’s Women Race and Class
I understand what is said here, and agree. But I think the pictures/gifs used to demonstrate were a bad choice, only one directly points to the “Predator” being a black man. Just an observation.
find out what aave is and come back
Point made, I was just giving an observation. I agree with your post 100% , but I think there are better examples
absolutely there are. but i made this post as a direct response to seeing the first two gifsets go viral around tumblr’s feminist community. i added the third screenshot to further contextualize my point. a lot of feminists i followm reblogged the hell out of the first two, obviously not seeing that they were using racism to fight sexism.
i also still think you’re failing to see that these are GOOD examples. because in neo-liberal media, overt racism isn’t as pervasive as “subtle” racism. so it’s exactly those first two posts that ppl need to be more aware of. because they might not be trained to see the racism in those situations where it’s not blatant. and that’s exactly what happened when those posts went viral.
this post is going around again a little bit so i want to add a thought process i’ve developed since this post’s conception. if you don’t actually think this is a thing (like some of you reblogging this to say black ppl are reaching bc you assumed op, i, was black) keep a notepad with you for a few weeks and write down every time a non-black person slips into aave (in speech, in a text message, on facebook, whatever.) then next to that, write down why. i’ve done this, and the second column never strayed from three overlapping categories:
1) jocose sexual predation (as in the examples above. real life examples: “AY GIRL, lemme holla atcha!” “lemme get cho numba.. ay yo where you goin’?” on someone’s selfie/profile pic: “DAYUM.” “damn ma, you is fiiiiine.”) verbally, this is, without fail, accompanied by a faked very deep voice. wonder why?
2) jocose aggression (real life examples: “YO FUCK DAT NOISE I AIN’T ABOUT DAT, FUCK DA HATERZ” “WHO IS YOU” “YO ima STOMP that FOOL!” "im finna snatch this bitch weave")
3) being loud (real life examples: “MUH FUCKIN HOMIE” “FO REAL DO” “ooo girrrlll!!!” )
so we slip into aave when we’re putting on sexual predation, aggression, and loudness. what does that tell us about stereotypes of black americans?
your solidarity is so real I wanna weep.
the latter commentary
The first one is Kat Dennings not reversing the role per se. She’s just being really confident in a mirror because she looks fine in that dress
k but why would she just suddenly slip into aave? does she talk like that normally? absolutely not, not even close to how she talks. shes changing her speech mannerisms to match what she’s trying ro convey. think about that again. why S U D D E N L Y S L I P into aave
You don’t detect any traps on the chest. In fact, you’re not even sure what a chest is anymore. You think maybe the whole chest is just one big bear trap? You are terrified of the chest.
I hate when people say that war is a worse crime than rape, first, they're not seperate, rape is a crime of war and up until super recently was not considered a war crime. Also, up until less recently, only men fought wars, yet more women died than men, and more people were raped than killed. Also, getting your house blown up, or your city burned down doesn't take away your atonomy, even murder doesn't because the nature of dying is no consent, but thats not the nature of life.
Actually, women have always fought in wars, though you wouldn’t know it because the traditional narrative has been one that only represents men.
To “rank” crimes is pretty senseless anyway. There is no competition to see who suffers most. When any one of us hurts, we all hurt. Much like Richard Dawkins attempting to put different kinds of sexual assault on a scale from worst to best, it’s ridiculous to split hairs when it comes to atrocities like rape and war. The impact of one is not diminished by that of another.
Rape is very commonly used as a tool of war, you are correct. Rape is also used as a tool of oppression and control in our every day lives. Living with the ever looming threat of sexual violence causes us to restrict the way that we live our lives in order to “keep safe”. It makes sense that if rape is used to subjugate and control us in a civil setting, war would intensify this (as it does all other things).
Also, as mentioned in the article linked above; "Rape is often used in ethnic conflicts as a way for attackers to perpetuate their social control and redraw ethnic boundaries, she said.
"Women are seen as the reproducers and carers of the community," she said
"Therefore if one group wants to control another they often do it by impregnating women of the other community because they see it as a way of destroying the opposing community."
Compare that line of thinking, that women are the heart of the community and therefore the key to breaking a community, to the everyday violence that women face and you’ll see one of the driving forces of rape culture at work.
Along my long journey of trying to get the highest winning streak for ‘hannibal lecter’s enemies’ flavored chips, I came across many temptations that almost lured me away from my goal
An under-the-sea version of the classic princess and the frog fairy tale.